…drea Liner, psychologist and author of #Adulting, says doing some mental time-traveling might help. “When you have relationship regrets, they’re usually rooted in putting memories of that person or that relationship on a pedestal and it feels like no one else is ever going to measure up, so why bother? But going ‘back in time’ and reflecting on the negative things in that relationship can bring you back to reality and help you realize that person or that relationship wasn’t as perfect as you thought,” she says.
Lots of good research here Samantha. Thanks for sharing. I think this is especially pervasive. We tend to suddenly forget about all the negative memories and focus only on the positive ones. That creates such a worrisome cognitive bias rooted in regret, self-doubt and uncompassion towards ourselves.